Disraeli once said ," There is no greater risk than matrimony, but there is nothing happier than a happy marriage." Of course he also said, " No man is regular in his attendance at the House of Commons until he is married." but we will assume that was in an earlier part of his life
Disraeli was born in 1804 in London, the son of a literary critic and historian. He wrote novels and was a world traveler before turning to politics and scaling the heights to Prime Minister. . Queen Victoria highly valued Disraeli's judgment and friendship over the years they were thrown together by the nation's business.
He met Mary Anne at a party at Bulwer Lyton's home. He said of the meeting, "'I was introduced by particular desire to Mrs Wyndham Lewis, a pretty little woman, a flirt and a rattle, indeed gifted with volubility I should think unequalled and of which I can convey no idea. She told me she liked silent, melancholy men. I answered that I had no doubt of it."
They married in 1839. Mary Anne was so devoted to her husband that once, when he accidentally slammed a door on her finger, she refrained from crying out so as not to disturb his concentration as he was about to make a speech in the House of Commons.
Mary Anne was attractive, lively and had a great sense of humour. She was widely known for her unthinking comments at public affairs. Once she said, after a remark by a woman regarding her pale skin, "Oh you should see my Dizzy in his bath." Apparently even Queen Victoria was amused.
Another time she attended a house party where the room next her had been occupied by the renowned military man Hardinge. She made the statement at breakfast that she had spent the previous night sleeping between the greatest soldier and the greatest orator (her husband) of all time.
Her comments often startled the staid Victorians but Disraeli was very protective of his wife and everyone knew not to comment negatively about Mary Anne in his hearing.
When a peerage was offered to Disraeli, he persuaded Queen Victoria to present it to his wife instead who now became the Viscountess of Beaconsfield. This assured his staying in the House of Commons. In later years he accepted the title of Earl of Beaconsfield.
Mary Anne died of stomach cancer at the age of eighty. Disraeli died in 1881. Queen Victoria was devastated by the death of Disraeli but was forbidden by the protocol of the time from attending his funeral. Instead she sent masses of primroses to the service. The date of his death is now commemorated each year and known as Primrose Day.
Benjamin and Mary Anne Disraeli are buried together in a vault in a church in Buckinghamshire close to the family home.
"We are all born for love. It is the principle of existence, and its only end."-Benjamin Disraeli.